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i went to an AA meeting Sunday from 4:30 – 5:30. i stopped my daily meetings after 8 in a row. Last Friday i chose to spend time with my daughter after work, and the church that has two meetings on Saturday was closed—i could have gone to another church but didn’t. Anyway, here’s what i took away from Sunday’s meeting.

You don’t have to believe in in alcohol for it to work, you just have to take the time to drink.

It’s only fair that recovery is the same.

You don’t have to believe in AA for it to work, you just have to take the time to work the steps.

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About Al K Hall

Like a battered drinker or a punch drunk boxer, i am here for another round. For those of you who don’t know me, i’m a semi-professional writer on the rocks and a non-practicing alcoholic (if after 30 years of practicing, you still can't do something well, it's best to just give it up). For those of you who do know me, thanks for stopping by anyway and where’s the ten bucks you owe me? Welcome to my Bar None. A hole in the wall where we can hang out and trade the kind of stories you swap only when you’ve had one too many and either can’t find your way home or are afraid to. Hell, it’s cheaper than therapy and plus the pictures are prettier. Here we’ll crack open bottles and jokes and ‘last call’ are the only dirty words you’ll never hear. Pull up a stool and make yourselves at home. http://about.me/AlKHall

Posted on October 3, 2011, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. I love your sense of humor! You are so right;
    “It works if you work it”

    Amen to that Brother! GREAT photo by the way….

    • Thanks Jennifer!

      “Work it, you’re worth it!”

      Me and my infamous sense of humor… Glad you liked the photo as much as i did!

      Keep Coming Back,

      Al K Hall

  2. Since drinking was a large part of your life for 30 or so years, it’s pretty natural that you’ll feel a void. One of the reasons that AA works is that it gives you an activity to replace the activity of drinking. That’s not the only reason. But when I saw guys at meetings that are 20+ years sober, I couldn’t help but think to myself “they’re not addicted to alcohol. They’re addicted to meetings.” Not that there’s anything wrong with that. It’s certainly better than drinking themselves to death. But there are other ways to fill your time, that might be better off for you in the long run. Such as taking a long run, walk, or bike ride. Or hitting the gym. Or putting more effort into your family. But if meetings keep you sober, and you enjoy them, then that’s better than drinking too….

    • ITSB!

      Good to see you again, brother. i see exactly what you mean about being addicted to AA / the rooms / the meetings… i’m not sure i’m there yet as i’m working the steps and can use regular input from “my fellows”, but i still have a hard time getting into the 90 meetings in 90 days mentality. i did 7/7 last week and it was helpful, but my life suffered in other areas. i wasn’t around so much for Mrs Demeanor, i had to stay up very late to get my writing done and that had an impact on my mood the next day and so on.

      i think everyone has their own rhythm, and for me, at the moment, the best is 4-5 meetings a week, although this will certainly change with time. 4-5 a week is enough that i keep my head in the program but i still have time to consecrate to my family and personal life.

      i said it somewhere else in these pages and still believe it to be true: Be sober to live, don’t live to be sober.

      Keep coming back, man,

      Al K Hall

  3. Will do! Its always good for a chuckle On the road to recovery, that is worth its weight in gold! on another topic; 90 in 90 is worth it AND it is too easy to trade in one addiction for another. AA became my trade in for awhile (allbeit a MUCH healthier one) I found as long as I worked my program and called my sponsor, I was AOK. Family, man, that is where an awful lot of healing happens too. It really is about Balance (well, and staying sober; that too.) hang In, Jen

    • Exactly Jen!

      In the rooms people often say that Alcholism is a disease of “more” and i find that to be very true in my case. i tend to live in the extremes and am constantly wanting More. Learning to strike a balance in life is the true struggle of the alcoholic / addict. Be sober to live, don’t live to be sober.

      Keep coming back, Jen,

      Al K Hall

  4. A friend of mine made this observation about me the other day. We were at a cafe and the waitress brought us water in a bottle that was shaped similar to a wine bottle. He noticed that I seemed to enjoy pouring the water into the glass, swilling it around a bit, and then drinking it, as I would wine (i.e., emptying the glass quickly) and refilling it. And I did. And told him I like to chug N/A beer from the bottles too At that point he said “There’s something about the bottle. If you could get that N/A beer for a $1 a gallon but had to mix it like Koolaid, you probably wouldn’t bother. You like the ritual of drinking from a bottle.”

    And he is right. Have you tried it? Get a bottle of Evian (refilling it with tap water if you want to save money) and store it in the fridge. Then when you’re anxious or wound up, or want to relax, take it out, and pour it into a glass It’s like a pacifier.

    • Hi there ITSB!

      This is so true. i had psychology as an additional major in college (my degree is in English) and i remember during the section on addiction we focused on cigarettes, which is one ruthless addiction. They said that in addition to the main reinforcer (nicotine) there were a slew of secondary reinforcers (holding the cigarette, lighting up, watching the smoke, ashing the butt, putting out the smoke…) that were extremely hard to shake.

      It makes sense that this would be the same for drinking. You’re right, next time i drink water i’ll try drinking it from a wine glass and pouring it and stuff, to appease that need for secodnary reinforcement. Thank your friend for the tip!

      Keep coming back, Boat,

      Al K Hall

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