Don’t Hold On

The argument could be made that the basic foundation of recovery is learning to let go.

We addicts began using a defect of character / crutch (alcohol, anger, cigarettes, pornography, control) to help us traverse a crippling problem but we became so dependant on the crutch that it became our crippling problem.

We need to learn to let go of the crutch, but we’re afraid. We’re a afraid we cannot go on without the crutch, that we are defined by it and that it our crutch is now a part of us.

We are afraid that if we let go, we will fall.

But what if the branch we are desperatey clinging to isn’t a branch at all?

What if the branch we are holding on to is an anchor holding us down? And what if by letting go of the defect, we let ourselves fly to the heights we can’t reach while clinging to the weight of our crutch?

Throw down your crutch and soar!


For those of us in AA:

This post relates directly to Steps 6 & 7. In Step 6, we became willing to have our Higher Power remove our defects of character and in Step 7, humbly asked him/her to do so.

Our defects of character are our crutches and our anchors. Step 6 is recognizing these defects and simply saying “My anger / fear / lust / control issues / jealousy / laziness / resentments… are not a part of me. They don’t define me. I really want to be rid of them.”

Step 7 is catching yourself using these crutches and mentally saying out loud (praying), “I am not able to control this part of my life, so I’ll stop trying to manage it and let my Higher Power remove it from me.”


Just a reminder that i ‘m on vacation in a place that has very limited internet access and so i won’t be able to respond to comments with my usual ruthless efficiency. Please don’t think i ‘m not reading them (i most definitely am), and please continue to leave them (they make my day).


About Al K Hall

Like a battered drinker or a punch drunk boxer, i am here for another round. For those of you who don’t know me, i’m a semi-professional writer on the rocks and a non-practicing alcoholic (if after 30 years of practicing, you still can't do something well, it's best to just give it up). For those of you who do know me, thanks for stopping by anyway and where’s the ten bucks you owe me? Welcome to my Bar None. A hole in the wall where we can hang out and trade the kind of stories you swap only when you’ve had one too many and either can’t find your way home or are afraid to. Hell, it’s cheaper than therapy and plus the pictures are prettier. Here we’ll crack open bottles and jokes and ‘last call’ are the only dirty words you’ll never hear. Pull up a stool and make yourselves at home.

Posted on August 16, 2012, in AA Step Work, Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholism, Lessons in Recovery, Recovery and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 8 Comments.

  1. inthesameboatla

    Al, I hope you remember that today is Bukowski’s birthday. Here’s a video of him driving down Hollywood Blvd. Cheers! ITSB

  2. Okay first off…thank you for helping me.
    Secondly did you know that the advertisement on your blog is for Big Time Rush? LOL!!! I don’t know, made me laugh, your blog helped me twice; with recovery then with a big laugh.

  3. I ♥ this post so much. I remember talking to you about the crutch being the anchor, but somehow reading it here really makes it clear, as do your drawings!

    Let go and soar… I like that so much.

    Thanks, Al.

    • Thanks Angel!

      This is one of my favorite posts, as well. Plus, it’s the revelation i had that helped me ‘get’ Step 6 of the 12 steps. Glad you appreciated it as well.

      Keep coming back,

      Al K Hall

  4. Very well said. In my twisted mind I think of that scene in Forrest Gump where he is breaking free from his braces and Jenny is yelling “Run Forrest, Run!!!”.

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