Egomaniac With An Inferiority Complex

Alcoholics are egomaniacs with an inferiority complex.

This is one of the truest things i’ve heard in or out of AA. i felt like this for decades but was never able to frame it with words. Fortunately, now i’m learning how not to need to.

How to Solve this Conundrum

The size between Large and Small? Balanced.

The trick is acting Right-Sized. As soon as my sponsor used this phrase, i instantly knew what he was talking about. Acting “right-sized” means staying within the norms of the situation and not getting carried under or away.

The easiest way to become “right-sized” is doing esteemable acts or anonymous good deeds. If i do something nice that no one will ever find out about, 1) i fight my ego because doing things with no recognition is humbling and 2) i heal my inferiority complex because i’m helping others.

The size between Large and Small? Right.


About Al K Hall

Like a battered drinker or a punch drunk boxer, i am here for another round. For those of you who don’t know me, i’m a semi-professional writer on the rocks and a non-practicing alcoholic (if after 30 years of practicing, you still can't do something well, it's best to just give it up). For those of you who do know me, thanks for stopping by anyway and where’s the ten bucks you owe me? Welcome to my Bar None. A hole in the wall where we can hang out and trade the kind of stories you swap only when you’ve had one too many and either can’t find your way home or are afraid to. Hell, it’s cheaper than therapy and plus the pictures are prettier. Here we’ll crack open bottles and jokes and ‘last call’ are the only dirty words you’ll never hear. Pull up a stool and make yourselves at home.

Posted on November 4, 2012, in Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholism, Lessons in Recovery, Recovery, Toolbox and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 12 Comments.

  1. Amen. L.

  2. Good stuff. And powerful to once again see and understand the change in you! I remember when you used to say “Balance is a dirty word!” and could not envision it in your life. And here you are, finding it and enjoying it. What a blessing.

    I had read this one a few times, actually, but kept postponing a comment. I was finally in a place where I could find the right-sized words to say, and I HAD to comment because of the little person picture up there, ha! Love that pic. 😀

    • “Balance is a dirty word” was one of the shields i used to hide behind because i was daunted by the task of trying to find peace. Fortunately, AA is a big help in guiding me along the way so all i have to do is follow, listen and learn.

      Thanks for the visit and keep coming back,

      Al K Hall

  3. Here’s a funny story… this picture is of me, so I would *LOVE* to know how the hell it ended up on here? I would appreciate it’s removal

    • Hello,

      The photo was on a social media site (i believe it was Cheezeburger). i’ve removed it and i apologize for confusion.

      Al K Hall

      • Thank you, I genuinely appreciate it. And thanks for letting me know where you found it, I’ve been chasing this picture down for years trying to get it removed but it keeps popping up.

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