i have a couple of choice words for you

Used 2013-05-26 Words are funny things (AlKHAll Anonymous sobriety recovery)

Words Are Funny Things

Today in the newcomer’s meeting, the woman sharing–sober since 1975–said that her brand of alcoholism was “public & violent”. She repeated this a couple times in her lead, “public & violent”.

Then after, a guy sharing picked up on this and said that while he’d been listening to her, he asked himself what his Two Words were to describe his drinking years. “Dark & Lonely” came to him right away.

When he said this, i wondered what the words i would use to qualify my drinking. i immediately thought of, “Chaotic & Desperate”. Which was also a good way to describe my life at the time. But that was then, and now the chaos and desperation have evaporated…

So now i’m gonna ask you, what are your two words? What two words would you use to describe your drinking? Have they lost a little of their punch for you?


Thank you all for your participation in this post (and to those of you who have yet to answer)! Looking over the words we’ve listed, i see a lot of common themes and feelings, and if your drinking was anything like mine, these weren’t just words used to qualify our drinking at the time, but our lives as well.

That sobriety has lifted these burdens from us is one huge addition to our gratitude lists, and something to keep in mind and heart the next time we’re tempted to take a drink.



About Al K Hall

Like a battered drinker or a punch drunk boxer, i am here for another round. For those of you who don’t know me, i’m a semi-professional writer on the rocks and a non-practicing alcoholic (if after 30 years of practicing, you still can't do something well, it's best to just give it up). For those of you who do know me, thanks for stopping by anyway and where’s the ten bucks you owe me? Welcome to my Bar None. A hole in the wall where we can hang out and trade the kind of stories you swap only when you’ve had one too many and either can’t find your way home or are afraid to. Hell, it’s cheaper than therapy and plus the pictures are prettier. Here we’ll crack open bottles and jokes and ‘last call’ are the only dirty words you’ll never hear. Pull up a stool and make yourselves at home.

Posted on May 25, 2013, in Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholism, Lessons in Recovery, Recovery and tagged , , , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 23 Comments.

  1. Sad and lonely.

  2. Private & determined

  3. Alone/lonely and angry…

  4. I’m going with Dark & Lonely too, by they have definitely evaporated now, complete 360.

  5. lonely, hopeless…

  6. Wow. As usual this relates to the “Beast”. I like the description of alone and determined. Turned out to be determined to be alone. 180! Life has turned around.

  7. Transformed and shady.

  8. From the Al-Anon side: scared sh*tless.

  9. Alone and scared!

    Great post and I’m finding the other comments very interesting. Lonely/alone seems to be the winner.

  10. Al, thanks for this post (as well). I’m with Luddy … it’s a relief to write about where we were and where we are now. No matter how bad it gets; we used to be _________________.

  11. Suicidal and apathetic.

  12. So much…Shame and Dread. Seems so easy now, with 14 months sobriety, just give up the drink and you’ll be better. I will never forget and for that I’m glad. The power of those feelings give me so much strength to stop the one second thought(s) – that rarely come now – of having a drink. (Haven’t been here in a while; catching up now. LOVE all of your posts!!!)

  13. Lost because of the way I felt and Lucky that I’m still alive.

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